The idea of happiness contentment and even understanding is one of self reflection. Not one of external actions. So if you have not already Go do some soul searching with in. I will wait.
Summer is here, men are at their peak during summer. So go and do things. Spend time with the children, volunteer. Be someone for others an help them find their way.
That is right I said it. Not all belief structures are equal. There are big differences. You have to make the decision. Which set of morals and values are biggest in your life.